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Privacy-first support project

SafeHome

A discreet domestic abuse support and safety hub for recognising warning signs, thinking through practical safety, improving digital privacy, and reaching specialist help.

If someone may be monitoring this device: consider using a safer device if possible. Changing passwords, disabling tracking, or deleting evidence can sometimes alert an abusive person, so specialist safety advice may be safer before making major changes.
Check warning signs Build a safety plan

Support tools

Start with what you need right now

You do not need to complete everything. Use only the parts that feel useful and safe.

Recognise warning signs

Explore patterns associated with coercive, controlling, physical, sexual, emotional, financial, and technology-facilitated abuse.

Private safety plan

Think through trusted people, safe places, essential items, children, pets, money, transport, and emergency actions.

Digital safety

Consider device monitoring, account access, location sharing, smart devices, browser history, and safer-device strategies.

Find specialist help

Connect with verified UK domestic abuse services and emergency support routes.

Support someone else

Guidance for friends, relatives, neighbours, and colleagues who are worried about someone.

Understand abuse

Learn why domestic abuse can involve patterns of power, control, intimidation, isolation, and harm, not only physical violence.

Recognition tool

Do any of these behaviours feel familiar?

This is not a diagnosis or risk assessment. It is a private reflection tool based on common domestic abuse warning signs.

Select only what feels relevant. Nothing below is submitted or stored by SafeHome.

Private planning

Build a personal safety plan

Planning does not mean you have decided to leave. It can help you think through options whether you stay, leave, or are already separated.

Device safety: text entered here remains in this open browser tab only. SafeHome deliberately does not save it to local storage. Closing or refreshing the page removes it. Avoid entering identifying details if someone may monitor the device.

Technology safety

Think about digital safety strategically

Technology can be used for connection and safety, but it can also be used for surveillance, harassment, or control.

If you suspect monitoring, making sudden security changes can sometimes alert another person. Women’s Aid recommends considering a safe device when seeking support and thinking strategically about technology changes.

Accounts and passwords

  • Consider whether another person knows or can reset your passwords.
  • Check recovery email addresses and phone numbers only when safe.
  • Be aware of shared Apple, Google, Microsoft, social-media, and family accounts.
  • Use a safer device for important changes if you believe your normal device is monitored.

Location and devices

  • Consider location sharing in maps, messaging apps, photos, fitness apps, cars, and family services.
  • Think about Bluetooth trackers, smartwatches, smart speakers, doorbells, cameras, and connected vehicles.
  • Unexpected battery drain or unfamiliar device permissions can be worth checking, but they are not proof of spyware.
  • Specialist tech-safety support can help you assess risks without escalating them unnecessarily.

Browsing and communications

  • Private or incognito browsing does not make activity invisible to every monitoring method.
  • Deleting history may itself be noticeable if someone expects to see it.
  • Consider a trusted phone, library computer, workplace device, or other safer device where appropriate.
  • Think carefully before storing screenshots, plans, or contacts on a shared device.

Evidence and safety

  • Do not put yourself in danger to collect evidence.
  • Specialist services can discuss safe documentation and reporting options.
  • If you believe a device contains monitoring software, seek specialist advice before factory-resetting or confronting anyone.
  • In an emergency, prioritise immediate physical safety over preserving digital evidence.

Verified UK support

Reach specialist help

SafeHome provides navigation, not counselling. These organisations can provide specialist support and discuss individual circumstances.

Emergency services

999

If there is immediate danger, call 999. On a mobile, if you cannot speak, listen and press 55 when prompted to be transferred to police.

Silent Solution guidance

National Domestic Abuse Helpline, Refuge

0808 2000 247

Free confidential domestic abuse support. Refuge states the phone helpline is available 24 hours a day.

Visit Refuge

Women’s Aid

Information about domestic abuse, survivor support, local services, online safety, and help for friends and family.

Visit Women’s Aid

Friends and family

If you are worried about someone

Support can matter enormously. The aim is to increase safety and choice, not take control away from the person experiencing abuse.

Listen, believe what they tell you, and avoid blaming them for staying, returning, or not taking an action you would choose.

Confrontation can increase risk. Ask the survivor what support would feel useful and consider specialist advice if you are unsure what to do.

Depending on the situation, useful help might include a safe call, transport, keeping copies of documents, childcare, pet care, or accompanying them to a specialist service. Only do what is safe and agreed.

Leaving can be complicated and may increase danger in some situations. Specialist services can help someone think through options without forcing a decision.

Understanding domestic abuse

Abuse is not limited to physical violence

Domestic abuse can involve patterns of coercion, control, threats, intimidation, sexual abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse, stalking, and technology-facilitated abuse.

Possible patterns

  • Controlling everyday choices or movements
  • Monitoring communications or location
  • Restricting money, work, study, or transport
  • Threatening you, children, pets, property, or reputation
  • Sexual pressure, coercion, or assault
  • Repeated humiliation, intimidation, or isolation

Who can experience it?

Domestic abuse can affect people of different genders, sexual orientations, ages, ethnicities, religions, incomes, disabilities, and backgrounds. The details and barriers to seeking help can differ from person to person.

SafeHome is intentionally inclusive and directs people to specialist services rather than assuming one experience fits everyone.

Emergency information

If you believe you are in immediate danger

In the UK, call emergency services.

999

If you cannot speak on a mobile: listen to the operator. If prompted by the Silent Solution system, press 55 to indicate a genuine emergency and be transferred to police.

This page cannot see your location, contact emergency services for you, or determine your individual level of risk.